A heartfelt thank you to all who wished me well and kept me in their thoughts. Wednesday has come and gone and clearly I am still standing. It went better than I had expected. The judge was kind and flexible and willing to allow my ex and I to stay with our own parenting plan and financial agreement. When I mentioned in my last post that our arrangement is unorthodox, I meant it. There is nothing about our arrangement that is typical and most people are astonished by how we make it work. But it does work and we wanted the courts to recognize that and sign off on it. They did.
Several people have asked me how I feel since the hearing. I can't put into words how I feel. I am 2,600 miles from my family and the possibility of moving back to California is not an option. I have children here and I won't take them from their dad or separate them from me. I have kind coworkers and trusted friends in AA. I am not alone. But I am most assuredly on my own. I lost my health insurance in the divorce. I walked away from our houses. I walked away from an awful lot, in fact, and many people think that I'm crazy or stupid. Possibly both. Crazy stupid perhaps, but I feel OK.
I'm fine. I knew I would be, but I can actually feel the fine-ness. No more Pepto to ease the nausea of pre-hearing nerves. No more sleep aids to help me make it through the nighttime anxiety. No more short sightedness due to frazzled divorce process depression. I'm fine.
On to the next challenge.
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11 comments:
Kristin, you are a woman of strength and courage. And i see hints of wisdom showing through the lines in your posts for a number of months now--grin!
Love, blessings, and PEACE!
For you, from me....
The challenges of life are ongoing. We do the best we can with what we know.
I was thinking of you, and glad everyone stayed true to their word. Trust is so important.
I know your decisions must have been agonizing. I'm so glad all is well.
New possibilities abound.
There is always a measure of excitement in starting over, even through pain. God bless your precious heart.
glad the stress is leaving you now. it's hard to live with anxiety day after day, it gets tiring.
Oh, Kristin, I'm glad you're doing ok. I obviously know exactly what you went through, and I hear ya on the *fine* part.
Good for you.
Love and hugs,
~Sarah
havent been around much, but you have been in my thoughts and prayers,K.
Patty
You've been in my thoughts all week -- I'm so glad you are OK and that the divorce is over. Take care, my friend.
Glad to hear the custody arrangements stayed the same. Also glad you are o.k with the outcome of things. Understand about not wanting to move away from your girls or have them move away from their dad, this shows you care from them more than yourself. Moving 100 miles away from Mich and the kids was too far for me and them.
Love your line "on to the next challenge", isn't this just how life goes, one challenge ends and another appears. As long as we stay sober we can face these challenges semi-sanely and hopefully gain some spiritual/emotional growth in the process.
Love and Hugs in fellowship
Scott
Kristin, I am glad that things went well without a lot of acrimony. I think that you have moved beyond my definition of F.I. N.E--you are doing great. Have a well-deserved sleep.
oh honey i have missed so much. i am sorry you are going through such a rough time and glad some of the worst of it is over. i think i got immersed in my baby-making and you were on the AA route which i couldn't totally relate to and we lost each other. but i am checking in and miss you and am here for you (after all).
let me know if you need a friend to talk to.
~Ally xo
I'm so glad you've found something that works for your family, the courts and others be darned.
Wishing you well and much respect & admiration!
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